“Oh really, you say that so often. I wonder what your basis of comparison is?” (Thank you Labyrinth and David Bowie, King of everything awesome)
Fairness. It seems like most hot topics in the news could boil down to this concept. The Arizona Immigration Law. Gay marriage. Healthcare. The job market. The economy. Who gets the bailouts and the tax breaks. There’s always a group of people that cry out, “That’s not fair!”
Well, at the risk of sounding like my mother, life’s not fair. Fairness is a human construct, like time. Without humans, “fair” wouldn’t exist. Do you think that as a lioness takes down a gazelle, she wonders whether or not it’s fair? It’s a brutal world where no one but your family has your back. (And family can mean many things, but that’s a topic for another post.) Within the family might be the only place where fairness exists. Outside of your family, fairness means nothing. If you want something done, you’ve gotta fight for, strive for, and do it yourself. Nothing is ever going to be fair for everyone. That’s why we have winners, losers, and compromises.
But aren’t you being a little harsh?
You’re damn skippy I’m being harsh!!! We sometimes need things to be harsh to discover reality. I was pretty spoiled growing up. I didn’t have to learn how to take care of myself. The past month has been an eye opener. And I’m ready now. I expected to get an awesome job straight out of Denver Publishing Institute because I got good grades at a good school and because I had further education than just undergrad. Guess what? I’m working two crappy jobs that I hate just to pay bills. Because I didn’t work hard enough to get my dream job. I wasn’t aggressive enough in the job market. And at first, I thought it wasn’t fair. I did the best work in school, so I should get the best entry level job in publishing. Oh so wrong. Oh. So. Wrong.
Life’s not fair. Nothing will ever get handed to you. If you want the right to marry who you love, fight for it. Make people listen. Yell louder than stupid conversatives or others who would keep you from your rights. Only one side will win, so make it your side. “Be the change you want to see in the world.” -Gandhi. Take care of yourself because you’re the only person you can count on 100% of the time.
Fair is just a human concept that has no real element in our world. Maybe in a Utopian society, but we live in the real world. I spoke with Ruth about this briefly last Sunday, and we exchanged a lot of ideas on the topic. It’s refreshing to still be able to talk with my friends like I’m still in Indiana. But Ruth commented that the only Utopian society that could function in our world would be under Christ as a leader and that only then could there ever be true fairness on a global scale. That really made me think for awhile. How much of the concept of fairness is tangled in religion? Of course it’s severely tangled in philosophy, but religion? Well, I guess religion is philosophy. I don’t have the answers to my questions and ponderings. Maybe I’ll discuss it with Ruth the next time we talk. (We also had an in depth conversation about aliens. Yep, that’s Ruthie and me. God and aliens. *smiles*)
Just stop and think the next time you think something isn’t fair. Maybe it’s not from your perspective. Maybe it is from someone else’s though. If you want life to be fair, then make it that way.