The subtle world of Avatar: The Last Airbender and Legend of Korra

Herein lies explanations, theories, and a bit of tin foil

 In the Avatar universe, subtlety reigns supreme. Each of the bending styles is based on a different martial art, the designs of circles/squares on background objects like bells, weapons, architecture, etc. are uniform throughout the four nations, Zuko’s physical appearance greatly changes through the three seasons to reflect how he was starving for a while there, and tiny things said during one episode can greatly impact an episode far in the future. Did you know that Toph has a major super crush on Sokka? Yup, subtle.

 But before we dive into Legend of Korra (especially the ending of season 2), let’s explore the ending of The Last Airbender a bit. I’ve heard people say a lot that the lion turtle was deus ex machina. I can sort of see where they’re coming from, but here’s why it’s not for me. One of the main themes of TLA was loss. Aang lost all his loved ones, the Airbender culture was lost from the world for a hundred years, Katara lost her mother, Zuko lost his mother, General Zhao burned the Fire Nation section of the Great Library (information was lost), Wa Shi Tong took his library to the spirit world and vast knowledge was lost from our world forever, Aang didn’t want to lose himself by killing Ozai. Do I need to go on? Because the Avatar has vivid connections to his past lives, he is a connection to ages lost and when he doesn’t know what to do, he turns to the past for guidance and knowledge. So it should not be a surprise that there are things in the past that have faded to legend or myth that are actually still relevant. Also, Lion Turtle details pop up in a few places before it actually shows up to give advice: there’s a huge painting of one in the Great Library, there’s statues of them in the Earth Kingdom, and a few other references that are slipping my mind at the moment. So really, I don’t have an issue with a Lion Turtle seeking Aang out and giving him insight into Energybending. This is simply a method of bending that has been lost. The deus ex machina that I DO have a problem with in TLA is when the pointy rock strikes Aang right in the lightning scar and he can suddenly unlock his Avatar state again. There should have been some sort of reflection period for him when he realizes that he doesn’t have to kill the Fatherlord and this realization means that there’s no cognitive dissonance within him anymore which should be the trigger to reactivate his Avatar awesomeness. But alas, it was not so. We should also remember that deus ex machina isn’t necessarily bad in and of itself. There’s a range of “acceptable to bad” for this literary device. Lion turtle was subtly acceptable; pointy rock was definitely bad.

 So since we just talked about things being lost in the past, let’s talk about Wan and why the Lion Turtles weren’t a cheat. The Lion Turtles merely bend a human’s energy to give them the ability to bend an element, like flipping a switch to “on”. Although the Fire Lion Turtle gifts Wan with the ability to Firebend, he still learns how to properly Firebend from a dragon. In one of the montage Wan scenes, we see him doing the Dancing Dragon form with a red dragon. And that douchey-guard-guy says how Wan bends like nothing he’s ever seen before. So the Lion Turtles still fit into the cannon of how each element learned to bend. Another key theme that we’re supposed to take from Wan’s story is that humans are capable of great feats that even the spirits could not foresee. Raava is amazed at Wan’s depth of compassion and responsibility. No one before Wan had learned more than one element, much less fused with a spirit and lived (sanely) to tell the tale. The writers of this show like to keep open ends that they can play with later so that they don’t write themselves in  corner (which they still do; example: Azula disappearing in a poof of fire after injuring Iroh while still surrounded by 4 awesome benders). Wan’s story is supposed to set up Korra’s fight with Vaatu and give the viewers a clue that she should have to find a new way to defeat him.

 Now on to Korra! One of the big themes throughout Korra season 1 & 2 is the search for identity. The world is experiencing exponential grow now that the industrial revolution has started and the nations are starting to blend together. Now it might not seem like Korra has too much trouble with her identity since she has known from a young age that she is the Avatar. But this is exactly Korra’s problem and why she’s such an irritating brat for the majority of the show. Korra isn’t necessarily supposed to be a likeable character most of the time. All other Avatars (that we know of and besides Aang) were told that they were the Avatar on their 16th birthday. This gave them a chance to be a normal bender. Korra never had this. Korra has always been “THE AVATAR” *very dramatic music swells in the background*. Between being able to naturally bend three elements from the start and her father locking her up in seclusion in the north, she had about 0 chance of being normal or having any decent social skills. But *why* is Korra naturally able to bend three elements? Could this be an indication that the Avatar cycle is about to shift dramatically? Possibly. Korra’s search for her identity blossoms when she’s separated from Jinora in the spirit world and runs into Iroh. Notice how she exclaims “MY TEAPOT!” when she sees Wan’s teapot? Every single time she has introduced herself to a new character up to this point in the show, she always says “I’m the Avatar.” She never introduces herself as merely “Korra” until she takes the dragonbird back to its nest. This is a very important step for Korra that leds into the big blue jolly giant stuff. She has primarily identified herself as the part that is tied with Raava, not the reincarnated human soul that defied all rules and sacrificed itself to save the world. Her search for identity becomes complete when Raava is gone and Tenzin reminds her of the human spirit that saved the world during the last Harmonic Convergence. She then uses the knowledge of Wan and Aang and the opportunity of Harmonic Convergence and the Tree of Time to create an astral projection of herself to defeat Vaatu. While this may seem like a deus ex machina move because the show never *really* discussed astral projection, the ability to project your astral form is closely tied to meditation and chakras in real life. When Aang studies with the Guru and is opening his 7th chakra, that big floating scary glowing Aang is his astral projection. Because of Harmonic Convergence (and possible the Tree of Time), Korra was able to take hers out of the astral plane and into the physical world. I think big blue jolly giant Korra is a beautiful extension of the chakra lesson we received in TLA season 2, although I do admit that it could have been explained better.

 Jinora time!!! Oh my goodness, I love Jinora so freaking much. LoK season 2 had the theme that Jinora is naturally very in tune with the spirit world. The Beginnings episodes’ explanation of Raava emerging from Vaatu if defeated and visa versa linked very well with what the Lion Turtle told Aang before giving him the ability to Energybend: “Since beginning-less time, darkness thrives in the void but always yields to purifying light.” This also ties very well with the lesson that Iroh taught chibi-Korra in the spirit world: that our emotions and outlook can shape the world around us. When Korra is fighting with the groundhog spirits, Jinora tells her to stop because she’s making it worse; so we know that Jinora already understands the lesson Iroh imparted to Korra. How I interpreted Jinora’s action was that because of her outlook and calm, gentle, peaceful nature, she was able to be the light in the darkness; she was dealing with spirits and she used her emotions to impact her surroundings. Her light showed Korra where Raava was in Vaatu. Her spirit was also able to enter the physical world due to the Harmonic Convergence. So I don’t think Jinora was a deus ex machina either; she straight up told Tenzin that she couldn’t go back yet and had something more to do, so we should have expected her.

 As for the battle between Korra/Raava and Unalaq/Vaatu, it doesn’t surprise me that she got her ass kicked at first. A) That’s good story telling and B) Unalaq SPECIFICALLY said in his classic “I’m the bad guy revealing all my plans because I think you’re already defeated” speech that he was more spiritually connected than Korra, so he’d be able to connect with the spirit and wield it better than her. Korra royally sucks at the spiritual side of her Avatar duties. Of course Unalaq/Vaatu pwned her. What’s ultimately impressive is that while Wan defeated a semi-powerful Vaatu with Raava’s help, Korra defeated a fully-powered Vaatu fused with a strong waterbender on her own. Without Raava’s help. Fucking. BALLER!!! lol

 I think I love the ending of season 2 so much as well because we’re now left in a world with SOOOOO many possibilities. *takes on the Probending announcer’s voice* Was Unalaq technically in the Dark Avatar state when Korra defeated him? Does this mean that the Dark Avatar cycle is broken and that Vaatu will eventually be reborn within Korra? If true, what will that mean for Korra’s continuing search for her identity? Or if it’s false, then is there a tiny waterbender born somewhere whose goals are pure evil and chaos!?! Will people be able to live in peace with the spirits like Bumi and BumJu?!?!

 Also, for those of you upset that Korra and Makko didn’t work out, it’s ok. It was a good way to show how Korra grew up. During their first break up, she threw a fissy fit like a child and ran off. Their second break up was so mature and showed just how much Korra had grown. And yes Bolin is a better match for Korra than Makko. But do you know what ship I’m rooting for? Korra and Asami!!!! Get it girls!!! *big cheesy grin* No I’m totally serious, I love Korrasami slash fics… too much probably…

 Ok so that’s all the facts that I have. Ready for some tinfoil?!?! (think people that wear tinfoil hats to keep aliens for reading their minds) Unalaq must have been working under Vaatu’s influence for some time to get as far as he has with his evil plot. So that was going on in the background during Amon’s revolution. There has been some discussion amongst crazies like me about how Amon wasn’t necessarily evil, just very broken. Broken people are easily bent, warped, and manipulated. In the Beginnings episode, Raava yells at the firebenders for making the spiritual imbalance between light and darkness worse by fighting the spirits of the forest. Wan’s last monologue talks about bringing spiritual balance by ending wars between people of different tribes/nations. Unalaq would want to create as much havoc as he could in the physical world so that when he broke Vaatu free, he would be just that much more powerful. Besides just putting the world in turmoil over a war between benders and nonbenders, if Amon did happen to win, then there would be no one left with the ability to challenge Unalaq/Vaatu or some combination of the two. (Unless some more lion turtles show up.) Unalaq appears to have a vast knowledge of the spiritual world and the spiritual side of waterbending. Unalaq and Amon are both waterbenders. What if Unalaq somehow taught Amon how to block a person’s bending? Yes I know that Unalaq isn’t shown to have this power, but Energybending seems to be a very spiritual thing, and we still don’t know where Amon learned to do it. Or maybe Amon did learn from the spirits, but Unalaq was there guiding him with how to get in touch with the spirits?

The Social Commentary in “The Bear and the Maiden Fair”

The Bear and the Maiden Fair by Skribbles

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The alternate title of this post would be: The Smallfolk don’t give a fuck.

Anyone who has read A Song of Ice and Fire knows that the characters mention singers and songs quite frequently. Especially Sansa–I’m actually beginning to not hate her. Now most songs/stories that Sansa mentions are from times long ago, the Age of Heroes. We get a lot of the more modern songs from Tom Sevenstrings and Marillion. And most of the modern songs don’t seem to name specific people; the two living characters that have songs about them are Tywin Lannister with “The Rains of Castamere” and Robb Stark with “Wolf in the Night.”

It’s funny then to hear all of the knights or lords talk about doing deeds worthy of songs, when there aren’t that many songs about current events that get popular. In fact, the most popular song in the world seems to be “The Bear and the Maiden Fair.” The only songs that mention specific people are all about kings or great battles of historic significance. “The Dance of Dragons” is about the Targaryen civil war; “The Night that Ended” tells the tale of the last great battle with the Others; “The Hammer and Anvil” describes Prince Baelor Breakspear and Prince Maekar’s battle tactics; and Renly gets his own song with “Lord Renly’s Ride.” None of these songs are about little lordlings that hold fords or battlements in small skirmishes, but the knights still think that somehow they’ll be immortal in song. Catelyn Stark even says: “We’re all just songs in the end. If we are lucky” (Storm of Swords, page 627).

Viserys lies to Dany when he tells her that the Smallfolk stitch dragon banners and await their return. The Smallfolk don’t care about the game of thrones; Jorah and Varys both say as much. And they really don’t. They care about songs like “Seasons of my Love” and “The Bear and the Maiden Fair.” The most popular songs are about things that the Smallfolk can relate to like outlaw gangs, barmaids and bawdy stories, love and bedding, ale and drinking chants, reaving (for the Ironborn), and religion. But Martin chooses “The Bear and the Maiden Fair” to make one of his points about society. It is one of the only songs that we get full lyrics to, and we hear several characters either sing it, mention it, or notice that it’s being sung at a feast. “The Bear and the Maiden Fair” is a silly tale of a bear that goes to a fair, licks the honey out of a maiden’s hair, and then carries her away. Now some people think that this song is really foreshadowing (and a lot of people seem to think that it points to a Sansa/Hound pairing… yuck), but I think it’s social commentary. The use of this tale cements the view that the Smallfolk really don’t care about the game of thrones as long as their own lives aren’t affected, and the actions of the high lords really aren’t that important in the grand scheme of life in this world. Otherwise, they’d be singing about their liege lords all the time, which they don’t–they just gossip. But when it’s time to sing, they sing of bears and girls with honey in their hair.

It could also just be a song about oral sex. *grins*

A full list of the songs can be found here:

edit: 8/30 Added in Catelyn Stark quote

Talkin’ ’bout my Generation…

What’s my Generation again? While I was browsing Reddit with my morning cup of coffee, I stumbled upon a good article (a nice break from rage comics). And it got me wondering, what generation AM I?

Now, being born in 1986 should classify me as a Generation Y, but both of my siblings are Generation X. I grew up with their taste in music, their games, their movies, their interests. Y is supposed to be defined as Gamecube and Pokemon and Dragonball Z and MP3 players, but I had Super Nintendo, Rainbow Bright, and Disney record hand-me-downs. I agree with a lot of the points made in the linked article about marriage and parenting perspectives. Am I a very young GenX? But then, unlike GenX, I’m stuck with GenY in the horrible, near-impossible job market that the Baby Boomers have set us up with.  Okay, so let’s say that I’m a GenY with a strong GenX upbringing; I’m still screwed by the Baby Boomers, just like everyone else.

I feel like GenY has been harder to classify than other generations, mostly because I don’t think that my age group really can define itself with just one title. The Internet has made it so easy to reach out to and connect with people all over the world based on interests, rather than having friends based on who’s in your neighborhood. And I think that we’ve missed out on a lot of things because of that. We’re so able to focus on our own interests and find like minded people, that I fear that we’re missing opportunities to branch out and do things outside of our comfort zones. When you surround yourself with friends that are just like you, where’s the room to grow and learn about other people’s interests? Maybe that’s why there are so many names for the generation born in or after the 80s: Generation Y, Millenial Generation, Generation Next, Net Gen, Echo Boomers, Boomerang Generation, Peter Pan Generation. What ARE we?

The last two names reflect the crappy economy and the trend to move back in with the parents after doing everything “right” like we were told. We got good grades in high school, did all the after schools activities, got good grades in college, again did all the after school activities, graduated with practical degrees, and find that the world didn’t work the way we were told it would. What really irks me is when I see articles about my “Boomerang” generation, and how lazy/spoiled we must be to move back in with our parents. If the Baby Boomers hadn’t screwed up the entire economy, we wouldn’t have to move back in with our parents. If the Baby Boomers hadn’t spoiled themselves rotten, we wouldn’t live in a country where staying at home a little longer than expected was viewed as a failure.

Ok, you caught me. I am a firm believer that Baby Boomers have screwed all of us over. Big time. The environment (global warming, the giant trash island in the Pacific), their fault. The economy, their fault. US involvement in the Middle East, their fault. The War on Drugs (which is harming us, but hurting Mexico far, far worse), their fault.

It’s left to our Generations–X, Y, and Z–to clean up the mess that our parents made. We will be the ones to struggle to close the yawning wealth gap. We will struggle to make the tough shift to renewable energy. We will live more like war-times, depending on family and close friends to share burdens. And we will get our acts together.  … So that the prosperous generation to follow ours can screw it all up all over again.

Homesick in the Summer Time

Lately I’ve been feeling very nostalgic for the Midwest. I’m not sure what’s causing it, but it’s probably heavily influenced by the fact that two of my good friends from high school are getting married this summer and a third friend is engaged.  And they’re running around doing wedding planning together. Maybe it’s just the fact that it’s summer time, and I wish that I was still in school so that I could be on summer break. Whatever the reason, I’ve been longing for my Indiana home…

Also, sorry about the lack of posts; life got super crazy with interviews and mild crises. I’ll be writing something more about Game of Thrones soon, and maybe a post on writing styles in fantasy novels. 

Oh, and now two escalators are shut down for repairs in Farragut North. When I say that the universe is out to get me/prove me wrong about things, I usually get a response along the lines of “the universe is too big to pick on you” etc, but I am beginning to believe that the universe is a micro-manager and likes to fuck with people sometimes, just to laugh. That is all. Have a great week. 🙂

Sorry for the Convenience

“Escalator temporarily stairs. Sorry for the convenience” – Mitch Hedberg

So any of you who live in the DC area and ride Metro are well aware of the elevator/escalator problems that our decaying public transportation system has. During the Rally for Sanity, an escalator in L’Enfant Plaza suffered from a brake failure and collapsed, injuring several people and causing quite a pile-up. I live on the Red Line, which has been undergoing intense maintenance since the crash in June of 2009, and I have come to accept the fact that there are delays pretty much every other day. I read about people complaining about Metro in The Express, and the answers given aren’t very encouraging. So I’ve just come to accept that I should be grateful that we have public transportation at all and that things will be fixed when they’re fixed.  Coming from a city with absolutely no public transportation at all, I honestly thought Metro was the greatest thing ever when I first moved here. Now, I cautiously watch the ceiling in the Farragut North station, waiting for a chunk of concrete with my name on it to come crashing down.

But I think people make too big of a deal about how slowly Metro is fixing itself. Metro has budget problems just like everyone else, and they’re doing their best. They’re under a lot of heat right now from the public and the media, so things are going to get fixed; we just have to be patient. At least we don’t have huge rats wandering around, stealing our lunches and possibly training mutant turtles of adolescent age to become ninjas (although that would be really cool and I’d be jealous of NY if that actually happened…).

So with that said, I would just like to share my experience of confusion and joy this morning. One of the escalators at Farragut North has been out of commission for about 5 months, meaning that riders have had to walk to the other side of the platform to ride up, or walk up the other escalator that was “temporarily” stairs. Not a huge inconvenience, but still mildly annoying. As I exited my train this morning, still sleepy and lacking coffee, I turned to the right like I always do to climb the temporary stairs. And I stopped and stared in wonder. Instead of a stopped escalator next to a closed-off-in-work escalator, there was a stopped one and, GLORY HALLELUJAH!, a pristine escalator going up. I looked behind me to the other side-by-side escalators to make sure that I didn’t just get turned around in the morning, but there were the two reliably working ones that had always been there. The escalator really was fixed. Now normally, I walk up the escalators even when they’re moving, but to savor every moment of this miracle this morning, I just stood and enjoyed the slow progression upwards.

It’s the little things in life that make a day awesome. Happy Friday.

Pills vs People

A person in my life has been suffering from depression lately, and it’s so hard to watch. I’ve never really been on the other side of this as much as I’ve been lately. I mean, I recognize that my mother was depressed a lot as I was growing up, but I think she did a pretty good job of hiding it from her kids. I’m usually the one lying unresponsive on the couch, watching life through the TV because I just don’t have the energy to get up and do anything. It’s very strange to be observing this behavior instead of engaging in it, and it’s clarified and strengthened my views on depression, pills, our society, and marijuana.

My friend’s (lets call him Darien) doctors have been prescribing him all sorts of pills. At one point, he was up to 9 a day and taking well over the recommended dosage for most of them. Pills to help him sleep, pills to help him wake up, pills for anxiety, pills to make him sick if he drank, pain pills, etc. Pills. Pills. Pills. Darien was supposed to go to AA to handle some drinking issues associated with all this mess, and his shrink usually couldn’t see him regularly at all. Now I’ve never personally gone to AA, but from the stories I’ve been told, I never will. Cause some of these people have PROBLEMS. Like trading their children for alcohol type of problems. Which is a lot different than just people who tend to drink a lot when they’re unhappy and can’t seem to control it. AA is not group therapy. I would probably come out of it feeling more depressed and needing a drink. Now I’m sorry if this feels like I’m trashing AA; I understand that the program has changed countless lives and really does help people. I’m just saying that it’s not for everyone and it’s not for every drinking/substance abuse problem. And it wasn’t helping Darien. So he was basically sitting alone in his house all day except for a few random doctor’s visits and meetings, popping pills and hoping that it would all get better.

Well here’s a huge shocker: it didn’t. That’s because while pills can be helpful tools sometimes in some cases, they are not a solution to everything, and I wish that our society would realize that fact. In most behaviorial medicine, we don’t even know the full extent of what the meds do! Listen really carefully to that next SSRI commercial on TV; you’ll notice the phrase “<insert medicine here> is believed to <insert pretty picture of synaptic gaps, serotonin, etc>.” My medicine is believed to do something? Like if I believe it will work, it will? I know what they’re really saying: we’ve tested this product out on people like you and we’ve observed these consistent changes. That’s awesome, I’m glad that you’ve recognized some of what these chemicals do to my body. What else are you doing to me that you don’t know about? One of Darien’s medications actually caused him to have more anxiety, and it was such a rare side effect that his doctors at the time didn’t link it to the prescription; they simply tried to treat it with more pills. We’re treating pills with more pills. Seriously?! He got a new doctor, who took him off of about half of what he was taking, and he’s feeling better. Still depressed, but better.

So here’s a little medicine that I’ve witnessed firsthand with Darien. Its side effects are happiness, sleepiness, slight paranoia, and hunger. Oh yeah, you know where I’m going with this. Marijuana. Now he’s only smoked thrice since I’ve known him and all three times have been when he feels like his medicine has failed him and he has to calm his shit down. And you know what? It works. He feels calm immediately afterwards, and he is more productive and motivated the next day. None of his prescription medications do that. Unfortunately, after telling his doctors and the program he was attending that his medicine wasn’t working and not getting any serious response from them, he smoked. He felt better. He was helping himself where they were failing him. And they kicked him out of his program. That’s messed up. I mean, I can see things from their perspective too. It was a substance abuse program, and the participants are supposed to stay clean. But it’s not like he’s a regular user or even abuser of pot, and he kept pestering them about how bad he still felt and they did nothing.

Ok, so even though I think that marijuana is far better than pills for anxiety and depression, I think there’s an even better cure: people. One of the worst things about depression is feeling alone. Darien is alone in the house all day, every day, watching TV. Days begin to blend together, all motivation is lost, and time begins to mean absolutely nothing because it just keeps dragging on. Circumstances like that would drive a completely stable person a little crazy, so what effect do you think it has on a person who’s already a little off his rocker? We are mainly social creatures that need to interact with other people. Even introverts need company sometimes. I fully believe that companions or life coaches are one of the best ways to combat depression. In my mind, they’d be sort of like the companions that old people have sometimes. You know, they help them take their meds, buy groceries, get to doctor’s appointments, etc. But depression companions would help the depressed person work towards their goals and keep them motivated. When Darien’s sister was in town, he was the most active I’d seen him in months. He was sleeping on a more regular schedule, getting up and staying up most of the day, and helping around the house. It’s because he had to entertain his sister and do things with her. A companion would serve the same function. They’d make sure that a good combination of diet, exercise, and activity worked to help the person get their life back on track. I realize that this is probably impossible for most people because it would cost a lot more than even prescription meds (which are already ridiculously expensive), but I still think that it would work the best. Ultimately, it’s going to come down to him wanting to get better and finding the motivation to help himself.

I just really wish that our society viewed depression differently. Doctors overdiagnose people with it all the time and throw pills at them that they don’t need. What people need is to not feel alone with all of their problems in this chaotic and unstable world that we’re in. This is one of the downfalls of being a competitive, dog-eat-dog, capitalist society.

The Fake Feminist

Feminism has been brought to my attention a lot lately, probably because I’ve been reading the “TwoXChromosomes” subreddit a lot. And one thing that weighs heavy on my mind is the “fake feminist.” Now this is a girl that gives all feminists one bad reputation. Let me paint you a picture of this ignorant chick.

First off, she obviously calls herself a feminist. But anyone who knows anything about feminism and men’s rights should be able to see through this lie right away. She only believes in policies that bring down men instead of lifting up women to a level of equality with men. She believes that she should get a job over a man with better credentials because she’s a woman. Anything that isn’t fair in the workplace she blames on the fact that she is a woman, not the fact that she’s completely incompetent. Being a woman is her trump card to everything. She’s in a bitchy mood, but she’s allowed to be ’cause she’s a woman on her period. She tries to dress in power suits and hide the fact that she’s a woman because she claims that she’ll be treated differently if she flaunts the curves God gave her. She claims to not need any help from men because she’s strong and independent and can do it herself, but she gets offended when a man doesn’t hold a door open for her. She uses inconsistent language. She’ll bitch and moan whenever someone uses the word “bitch” because it’s degrading to women, yet she’ll have the audacity to say something like “That exam totally just raped me” and think nothing of it. She calls herself a feminist because she wants to be strong and equal, but she doesn’t know how and would rather drag men down to her level than nut up and play with the big boys. She is usually a spoiled brat.

To all the Fake Feminists out there: You disgust me. I consider myself a feminist, and your actions make me and those like me look like bitches. You’re the reason we have a bad rap of man hating and whining.

Here’s how I believe a true feminist should behave. She’s confident in her looks and knows that dressing in pretty colors, skirts, lace, and frills isn’t making her any less serious. In fact, it doesn’t matter what she wears because she’ll get the job done either way. She’s strong and confident– the kind of woman who can strut her stuff in 6 inch heels or flats or sneakers. She holds herself accountable for her actions and rises to the challenge of keeping up in a fast-paced business world. She juggles a career and a family, sometimes with grace, sometimes with a lot of coffee. Or she focuses on a career. Or she focuses on a family. Doesn’t matter because it’s her choice.  She respects everyone despite their gender, holds doors open for everyone behind her, helps elderly citizens across the street, and saves kittens from trees. … Okay maybe I went a little overboard. But the point here is that she treats everyone as an equal and her attitude towards life demands that she be treated as an equal as well. She is a mature adult who understands that the world isn’t fair and that to blame it on being a woman only adds to the problem and doesn’t solve anything.

Feminism is not about holding men down so that we can rise up. It’s about being completely equal and holding our own. It’s about the choice to be able to do what we want with our lives, our careers, and our bodies. The fake feminists try to take away men’s rights just because they can’t figure out how to live in what they call a “man’s world.” Fake feminists, put on your big girl panties and learn to deal with it because life is not going to slow down for your spoiled asses.

I believe that beside every good feminist is a good partner, supporting her when she needs it and whom she can support when s/he needs it.